Well, let me introduce myself. I have been married for 27 years, and the last five have been completely sexless. My wife had a hysterectomy and now refuses to go back to the doctor to determine the cause of painful sex. She tells me that is just the way it is and I have to get used to it. I don’t want her to have sex that may be painful and possibly harmful, but on the other hand, a life of celibacy does not sound good at all.