I recently heard a sermon from a preacher who was adamant about the adultery commandment. He said, “Just don’t do it!” He was referring to sex with anyone other than a spouse or even thinking about sex with someone other than a spouse. He was so adamant and I watched a lot of women nodding their heads with a look of righteous indignation on their faces.
I could not help but wonder if these same women went home and told their husbands not to get their hopes up.
I say this because I was at a “Christian” marriage seminar where the wife of the couple said these exact words to her husband this while seated at the front of the auditorium in front of all the couples. She was holding herself up as a marriage expert and an example of a “Christian Wife,” as she publicly shamed her husband. She described sex as animalistic and shallow. Her husband was a fire and brimstone type who had loudly berated all of the husbands in the audience by saying that any marital problems were the fault of the husband, every time.
After I heard the woman, not a lady, say this to her husband publicly, I was enlightened to the source of his frustration.
He is in the position of trying to encourage people to improve marriages while he is trapped in a prison with a hateful, selfish shrew.
I wonder if I will ever hear a sermon where a preacher treats Paul’s marriage advice the same as he does the Ten Commandments. Can you imagine a preacher saying, “Don’t refuse your spouse. Just don’t do it.”
No, it will never happen.