This is going to be kind of a rant, so you may want to just skip this entry.
Often, I will run across a Christian sex site, where the “marriage expert” will mention that he/she had some sexual experiences before marriage, but now that he/she is married, everything is absolutely wonderful! Some will even say that They say they might have had some problems along the way, but they now have the most wonderful marriage possible.
They will say that no one should EVER have sex before marriage, because sex in marriage is so awesome. So they are saying that they had a lot of sex before marriage, but you should do as they say and not as they did. So even though this person got to experience a lot of fun, casual sex, no one else should.
So let’s examine this a bit more closely. This marriage “expert” did NOT do what God expected of him or her, but expects you to do exactly that. However, he/she does not talk about anything negative that happened to him/her as a result of his/her ignoring God’s rules. The material just says that things are wonderful now.
Does this make sense at all? A person gets to have a lot of fun, exciting, wonderful casual sex, and then says “King’s X,” “I am being a good Christian now,” “No one gets to criticize me.” Is that the right thing to say?
Some of these people, if confronted with this, will become indignant and say that they had LOTS of consequences of their sin, and it was wrong. However, they do not enumerate any of said consequences, and just assure readers that they were there. However, they have no problem talking about the wonderful marriage they have now.
I think this is a bunch of crap. If these “experts” want to have some credibility, they need to talk about the consequences before they can expect people to listen to their wonderful advice. I say they need to talk about the bad and not just the good. Then their advice will be much more valuable.
I am starting to see why people are so opposed to churches. The hypocrisy is being shouted so loud that it drowns out any good you could hear.